10 Finger Tips & Techniques To Quickly Make Her Come While Fingering

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Fingering is sometimes quite difficult.

That's because most men make three big mistakes while fingering.

Every woman is different, and every woman likes different things.

Here you will learn how to prevent these three errors, and 10 simple tips to finger each woman so she comes quickly.

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Fingering is not always easy. There are three reasons why. If you take these into account and apply the right tips, you will see that your girlfriend (or wife) will like it much better:

3 Reasons why most men can NOT finger:

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1. They watch too much porn

Porn is made by men, for men. Actresses fake orgasms. Prepare themselves with lubricants so that foreplay is not required. All love anal and love it when you cum in their face (hint: they really don’t).

Besides, porn is really bad for you.

This is the same for fingering:

The actor moves his hand quickly up and down for 20 seconds and puts a lot of pressure. The actress screams and most viewers think she came already.

Unfortunately, in the real world it doesn’t work that way.

2. They don't ask for instructions

A woman can finger herself best. Even if you are great at it.

She knows exactly what she likes.

... and what she doesn't.

If you don’t ask her for feedback, or don’t do anything with it, it's your own fault if she is suddenly distant.

3. They do what they themselves like to do to her

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Many men love this:

  • Hard and fast.

During sex it makes you come too quickly.

But, if you go too hard and fast while fingering, you’ll hurt her.

Below you will find 10 simple tips on how to properly finger a woman.

10 Best Tips For Fingering

Below are the 10 best tips on how to finger a woman. You will learn how to avoid common mistakes and what you should do when fingering.

#1 Cut your nails

Take your index finger. Put it in your mouth. Now move your fingernail along the inside of your cheek.

Feel that?

Now imagine that you feel this in your urethra. Not very nice right?

A woman feels that too when you finger her with long nails.

The result is that she will let you keep going for a minute (hoping it gets better). Then she asks you to stop, or if she does not want to hurt your ego, pretends she comes.

cut your nails

So, cut & shape your nails. Do this once a week, so you never forget it. Maybe even set a weekly alarm on your phone if you forget it.

Your girlfriend will be forever grateful.

#2 The basics of fingering

OK. These are really the absolute basics. If you are more advanced, you can skip this. Beginners, please pay attention:

Find the clitoris

Finding the clitoris can be tricky at first. All women are built a bit differently. Some have a small one that is a bit hidden, while others have a slightly larger one that is easy to find.

If it's your first time and you don’t want to miss it, do this:

  • Leave the lights on. This makes your quest easier
  • Before fingering her, you first take off all her clothes and make her horny. See Tip # 9 and #10 in this article to learn how to get her excited.
  • At the end of the massage you finish between her legs (lying on your stomach with your head between her legs). Now you can easily find the clitoris.
  • If she has a lot of hair, just skip to sex. Tell her you find it sexier if she shaves. In 2016 you can expect that she shaves/waxes.

Clitoris or in the hole?

Start in the beginning with the clitoris (which is the normal fingering spot). If you go inside her, you can also give her special orgasms (you'll learn about these later in this article).

So for now just outside and on her clitoris.

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Use the right (number of) fingers

Again, something typical. Many men look at porn and see that an actor slams his whole hand in her...

Or that the actor rubs her clit with lighting speed.

So men think: "Let’s finger her as fast as possible and with as many fingers as possible."

Let me be clear:

This is *not* the intention.

So… How many and which ones?

One finger is enough. Use the middle finger in the beginning. Later you can add your index finger if you want. Rub it (slowly) over her clitoris.

Then it's time for the following:

#3 How to avoid pain

You have read about the basics of fingering. Before you begin fingering there is still one thing you need to know.

Make her wet.

Look:

Becoming wet for a woman is a protection mechanism. It makes sure she is protected from abrasion and gets no wounds inside.

Getting wet is a reflex

It happens automatically. It is a reflex. And she can only get that reflex when she is relaxed and excited.

And that will take time.

This is something porn never showed you.

Something porn never shows: How to make her relax and horny

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Make it wet and stick it in her...

Do this right before you finger her:

Your finger is usually dry (= pain). So, put it briefly in her mouth (or yours) before you go down on her.

Your finger usually dries up quickly again. If you take it off for more than 10 seconds, make it wet again with some spit.

Now you have done the preparation.

What should you do when you get going?

#4 One simple trick to finger well

If you want to finger well, this trick is great.

Tell her:

"Show me how you like it."

(Do not ask what she likes, but tell her to show it.)

Why this works

Look:

You can never finger her better than she does herself. She has of course much more practice and can feel exactly what is fun.

It would be a shame not to learn from it.

If she does not want to show (shy and such):

Then say, "I can’t read your mind. Wouldn’t you rather have me doing it well? Show me how you like it."

Tip: Check out this article with 13 things that women love in bed.

If she shows it to you, there is still one thing you need to know:

#5 How to prevent pain or boredom

Every woman is built differently. Every woman masturbates differently. (If you didn’t know this already, women also love sex.)

So, one might be more sensitive than the other. So there is a danger that you're fingering too hard and hurting her.

Or, if you're too soft she might get bored.

The only way to find out is by asking her.

How you should *not* ask this

This would be wrong: "How does it feel?"

You understand that while fingering her, you don’t want to ask her long philosophical questions. It distracts. So, you want to make it as simple as possible for her to respond.

An answer about which she has to think is too much. This can distract her.

So, avoid open-ended questions.

Instead, ask closed questions, to which she can only give you two answers (yes / no).

"Harder or softer?" is a good one.

#6 How to give her a clitoral orgasm

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Usually, it takes 10-20 minutes before a woman comes from fingering. When she comes because of her clitoris, it’s called a clitoral orgasm.

If you keep going long enough, this happens:

  • She will breathe faster.
  • Her muscles will tense, especially her abdominal muscles.
  • Or, if your finger is inside her, you can sometimes feel her squeezing around your finger (especially if your girlfriend trains/does squats).

Important!

If she likes something, keep doing it. If she doesn’t like something, adjust. Do it a bit differently, let her show you, etc.

So, keep going until she comes.

When she has come, do these four things afterwards.

You learn quickly that the above techniques for fingering are quite boring.

Therefore, below are four cool techniques to give her special orgasms:

#7 How to give a woman a G-spot orgasm

You have done the outside now with your fingers. But, this is only half the battle.

The vagina of a woman is, in fact, awesome. She has several sensitive areas and therefore can have several different orgasms.

G spot location

The best known and easiest is the G-spot orgasm. The A-spot orgasm is more complicated. 

The G-spot is a zone at the top of the vagina, approximately half a finger deep.

Fingering The G-spot 

All tips for the normal fingering that I mentioned above still apply. Make your finger wet. Ask for feedback. Begin slowly, etc.

The movement you make is the "come here" motion with your finger. So, you move your finger from the back to the front.

Do this for 10-20 minutes, and she will have a more intense G-spot orgasm.

But, if you really want to do it well, you should add the following:

#8 Cunnilingus and fingering at the same time

Fingering in itself is pretty boring. But, when you lick her at the same time, it suddenly becomes much more fun.

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This way, you can give her a combination orgasm:

Clitoral (from cunnilingus) and vaginal (from fingering).

How to lick her well

  • Lick her first for 5 minutes before adding a finger, so she has some time to get wet inside.
  • Your main objective here is, again, the clitoris.
  • Many women also find it nice if you lick the rest of the vagina. Outer labia, etc.

This ends the "vanilla" sex now.

Time for something more exciting:

#9 Finger in her ass

Yes. Many women like it.

Take a look:​

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So, the question is:

How do you finger her anally?

OK. It sounds dirtier than it is, but keep reading.

First, the bottom of her anus is not dirty. It is usually pushed close together and so there are never poo residues etc. Your finger will therefore remain clean.

Please note:​

  • *Only* go inside with her permission. For example, rub your finger over her asshole and ask whether it feels good. If she says "Yes," you can go in bit by bit.
  • Use a wet finger. Lubricant is perhaps a bit much, but spit and /or vaginal fluid is a must.
  • Only go inside if she is close to her orgasm. Otherwise, she's not excited enough for this.
  • This is ideal to prepare her for anal sex. Read this article with 16 anal sex tips for more information.

#10 Make her Squirt

One of the coolest types of orgasms a woman can have is when she squirts while coming. It is also known as squirting.

It is almost like a G-spot orgasm; just the technique is slightly different.

Below you will see the technique to make a woman squirt:

squirting orgasm tips

If you want a step-by-step plan for this, check out this article: 7 Squirt Tips: How To Make A Woman Squirt When She Comes

For all these types of orgasms (clitoral, G-spot, squirt), it is important that you do one simple thing.

You will learn it below:

#11 Bonus: What you should do BEFORE you finger her

How strong a woman orgasms depends mainly on what you're doing before fingering.

A woman can orgasm much stronger if you do the right things.

If you do this correctly, you will see that she doesn't just have a screaming orgasm, but that afterwards she will also become addicted to the orgasms you give her.

There is a simple trick — consisting of two steps — which make exactly that happen.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Do you have a question that is not answered here? Put it in the comments below.

clitoris location

Where is the clitoris?

Trouble finding the clitoris?

No worries.

In this picture you can easily locate it.

It's at the top of the inner lips, sometimes under a small amount of skin (the clitoris cap).

Which finger should I use while fingering?

If you remain on the outside, you can use anything. Middle finger and index finger are best.

If you go inside, start with your middle finger. That's enough to give her orgasms. If she has room, you can add a second.

How many fingers do I use?

1 or 2 is enough.

Is fingering anally dirty?

No. The poop is stored higher (in the rectum). That is a lot higher than the anus. Her asshole will therefore generally be clean, especially when she washes it or has been to the toilet in advance.

Do you have more tips to become better in bed?

Glad you asked

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