Let’s face it
When our woman orgasms we feel like a man.
And when it doesn’t happen or worse when we think she’s faking it we feel utterly inadequate.
Am I not big enough?
Am I not attractive enough?
Does she not love me anymore?
Negative thoughts start flying through your mind uncontrollably. Your heart sinks.
Well, worry not.
In this article I’m going to cover the best positions for you to get her to orgasm every time.
First, a Word of Warning
Yes, in this article I’m going to teach you the best positions to make a woman orgasm.
And yes, you should learn them and try them.
But
When it comes to satisfying your women in bed penetration, intercourse, penis in pussy sex is NOT the most important thing for the vast majority of women.
You would have much more success in most cases if you only learnt about foreplay.
Only around 25% of women report being able to orgasm through intercourse alone (although that percentage would be much higher if everybody followed my advice.)
If you highest concern is keeping her satisfied, having her thinking you’re a god in bed, you’d have much more success mastering oral sex first.
Why Orgasms Matter
You’re absolutely right to be concerned about whether your woman comes when you get intimate with each other.
Evidence suggests that when a woman orgasms she retains more sperm, less of it is pushed out of her afterwards. And this happens for around 1 minute after she comes.
This means that back in the day, when we lived in caves and tribes, if a woman was getting frisky with multiple men in her tribe the man who made her orgasm was the most likely to get her pregnant.
Studies also show that women who perceive their man to be more manly and more attractive and who also perceive other women to find their man attractive orgasm more frequently.
So yes you are right to worry about it.
But
Luckily you have me and I can teach you everything you need to know about making your woman orgasm 😉
So, onto the positions that make a woman most likely to orgasm.
Warning: Some women will find it hard to orgasm no matter how attractive they find a man, so don’t take it personally, just learn as much as you can and enjoy.
1. Adjusted Doggy
This should be your go to position. When trying to make a woman orgasm through penetration the spot that you want to hit is her G-spot.
G-spot
- 1-2 knuckles deep
- Front wall of the vagina
- Feels rougher than the rest of her vagina
- When stimulated swells and leads to orgasm
- Is capable or multiple orgasms
- Many women find it more intense than a clitoral orgasm
- Every woman is different so you'll have to do a bit of experimenting to find the most sensitive spot for her
Any position that angles your penis to hit/rub this spot is good for bringing her to orgasm.
Although we all love normal doggy, it’s not that great for this. There is more pressure on the rear wall of her vagina, which can be very stimulating for a woman, but generally not as much as her G-spot.
To turn doggy into adjusted doggy simply place a few pillows under her hips and have her rest on them from the doggy position.
Also
Unlike doggy, you don’t want your back up straight you should be leaning forward, your stomach almost against her back, this will angle your penis to hit her G-spot.
And don’t be an idiot, you doesn’t want the whole weight of your heavy ass pushing down on her. support yourself with your arms and knees.
You can also increase her enjoyment of this position by throwing a bit of domination in there, lightly pull on her hair or place your hand around her throat while you’re doing it.
A dominant man is the most frequent turn on/sexual fantasy for women, bringing a woman to orgasm has much more to do with her mind, how she feels than the actual mechanical process, so this is very important.
Speaking of being dominant.
2. Tied Up, Spread Eagle
Some women (some men even) are a little bit hesitant to try this one.
There needs to be a lot of trust and comfort between you two for her to be willing to try it, and to enjoy it when she does.
It’s certainly not one for one night stands.
But
This one puts the feeling of being dominated for her through the roof.
I’ve seen this take women who have never orgasmed and have them experiencing a non-stop orgasm the whole time we had sex, mind you that did involve a lot of build up, spanking, chocking and some candle wax, but that’s a story for another day, the point is this position is extremely good for a lot of women.
Not only does this position ramp up the dominance, but there is literally nothing she can do while she’s in it.
Meaning
She doesn’t have to worry about anything
- Not how she's performing
- Not how she looks
- Not whether she's pleasing you or making you feel good
She can just get lost in it and enjoy herself.
It also builds up the anticipation aspect dramatically, she doesn’t know what you’re about to do, especially if you have her blindfolded too, this is a big turn on for a lot of women (one of the reasons I frequently mention that you must never get stuck in a routine) and you can use that to your advantage here.
This is one of the best positions for a woman’s enjoyment.
HOWEVER
You must be very careful how you introduce it to her.
If you put pressure on her, telling her how you saw some random weirdo on the internet talking about how amazing it is and about how she’s guaranteed to orgasm if she does it, then she finally agrees to it after hearing you go on about it for a week, but she feels really uncomfortable about it and is just doing it to shut you up:
- Then she's probably going to hate every moment of it and not come.
This position works more because of the psychological effect it has on her, rather than the actual position itself. So if it’s not really something she’s into and the psychological effect it causes is discomfort and anxiety then it’s not going to work.
So my recommendation is to bring it up to her, and if she’s not that into the idea (although most women will be) then recommend a bondage light version first.
Bondage Light
- Use a work tie, or something else you already own that is soft and comfortable
- Only tie her hands, either to the bed post above her, or just together
- Don't make the knot too tight
- Suggest she tie you up first, this can make her feel much more comfortable with the idea. And you might just discover a new kink you never knew you had 😉
And if after trying this she finds she does like it, you can suggest a proper bondage set. I recommend this one.
Speaking of discomfort that brings me on to the next position.
3. Cowgirl
The number 1 reason women can’t reach orgasm is because of their mind.
And as discussed before one of the ways a woman’s mind can block her from having an orgasm is anxiety.
There are a lot of women that find many sexual acts, even things that you find mundane and boring, to be anxiety inducing, especially if they’re inexperienced.
The two sexual acts that the most women find the least anxiety inducing are:
- Missionary (unsurprisingly)
- Cowgirl
And the good thing about cowgirl is she’s in control
Meaning you don’t have to worry about:
- Hitting the right spots
- Going hard enough
- Going fast enough
She’s going to do it exactly how she likes it, you just have to last long enough (but most men last longer in this position anyway.)
If she struggles to come in this position a couple of things you can try, that should at least make the position more enjoyable for her, if not bring her to orgasm, are:
- get her to get into a squat position instead of resting on her knees.
- get her to lean back while she does it so that your penis hits the right spots.
4. Ask Her
No woman is built the same and there are some women who can only orgasm in one particular position. They actually find this very frustrating and often email me to ask me what they can do about it. But instead of worrying about how to change it, embrace it.
Ask her.
NOT WHEN YOU’RE HAVING SEX
Don’t ask what’s her favourite position, ask what position does she find it easiest to orgasm in. And then do what she says. Simple.
If she says she can’t orgasm through sex then ask her what her favourite is.
5. Any Position, Just Not One
If you go through the same routine every time you do the deed,
(A typical one would be a little make out session while running your hands up and down her body, strip her off, a little fingering or licking her pussy to get her wet then straight to it in either missionary or doggy until you come. Sound familiar?)
Then this could be the problem.
Women who change positions during sex report frequently reaching orgasm at a 19% higher rate than women who do it in one. So mix it up fucker.
6. The Cheater
Ok so this one isn’t exactly a position, but it needs to be mentioned.
As I stated at the beginning of this post most women find it difficult/impossible to orgasm through penetration alone and you should concentrate on oral sex to make that happen.
But you’re adults, you’re busy people, sometimes you don’t have time to give each other real quality sex, you only have 15 minutes for a quicky before your mother in law arrives.
Well in these situations your best option is to have a threesome, no i’m not talking about DPing your wife, I’m talking about bring a vibrator into the action. If you have a good vibrator most women are guaranteed to come every time.
The best position to do it in with a vibrator is her laying on her front and you doing her from behind with her hand going under her to hold the vibrator in place.
Now don’t get lazy and start using this as your go to every time, you don’t want to get replaced by a toy 😉
More Important Than the Position You Do It in
If you really care about bringing your woman to a screaming orgasm every time you sleep together, then the position you do it in should be one of your last concerns (although you should get it right, so good on you for reading this.)
Some things that are more important than the position:
- Getting her excited about sleeping with you before you even see each other.
- Bringing her to orgasm before you have sex (foreplay)
- Your thrusting while having sex
- Turning her on mentally
And finally and maybe most importantly getting her turned on once you’re in the bedroom together.
For this I have put together a video for you The 3 moves to turn any woman on to get access to this video simply click on the video image below and follow the instructions.
Do your partner a favour and give her loving so good tonight that she falls in love with you all over again.
