15 Tips for Giving Your Partner an Erotic Massage

Giving your partner an erotic massage is one of the best things you can do with her.

However, if you’ve tried it before you probably found it more difficult than you’d initially thought.

That’s why I’m going to give you 15 simple tips and techniques for giving a wonderful (and exciting) massage .

15 Tips for Giving Your Partner an Erotic Massage
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Before we start, you should know this…

Why Should You Give Her an Erotic Massage?

An erotic massage is foreplay, and there are various advantages:

  • It turns a woman on, and gives her better orgasms.
  • Good for her mental and physical health.
  • It strengthens your relationship, and improves your sex life.

Before you get started with an erotic massage, it’s important to be well-prepared. You can read more about this in part 1 below.

Part 1: How to Prepare a Massage

In order to give her a good massage, it’s important to go through the following steps:

Step 1. Prepare the Room for the Erotic Massage

The room where you’ll give her the massage needs some preparation. Just like a restaurant table, that is prepared before the guests arrive.

You want to create a comfortable, relaxed, romantic and nice-smelling environment, to get her in the right mood. This way she will enjoy the experience even more. Think of:

  • 1. The right environment. A room where you can both forget about what is happening in the world around you, and where the focus is put on the time you spend together.
  • 2. Light. Dimmed lights and candles. This ensures a calm, relaxed and sensual environment.
  • 3. Temperature. A draft-free and warm room, so that she will not get cold when she's naked in front of you, covered in massage oil.
  • 4. Smell. This will give her an extra experience, and a possibility for deeper relaxation.
  • 5. Privacy. Make sure you're not disturbed during the massage. Switch off both of your phones. Let the people in your house know they shouldn't interrupt you. Or, if necessary, stick a notice on your door
  • 6. Sex music. The right music helps to create an erotic atmosphere.
  • Tip: Buy scented candles.

So, the room is now ready. Next step is to pick the best massage oil for the job.

Step 2. Have Massage Oils at Home

Use a natural oil. This way her skin won’t get irritated. Examples: grape seed oil, almond oil or virgin olive oil.

  • Tip: Always use plenty of oil. This way your movements will be smooth, which is much better for her.

There are also various scented oils. Every scent has a certain erotic effect. Try out the following scents:

  • Lavender: for extra relaxation
  • Sandalwood: induces sensuality and calmness
  • Roses: stimulates the feelings of love
  • Please note: Make sure that the bottle of oil is a little warm. Cold oil isn't pleasant, just like cold hands on her body.
15 Tips for Giving Your Partner an Erotic Massage

Just like cold oil, it’s unpleasant if you don’t smell good. So remember to take good care of yourself before you start.

Step 3. Personal Grooming

Just think of the basics. For the sake of convenience, I’ve summed up the most important points.

  • 1. Make sure you have showered.
  • 2. Shave certain bodyparts if you know she likes it.
  • 3. Cut your nails.
  • 4. Brush your teeth.

So, you’re fully prepared. Now it’s important to make her feel at ease. For example, ask her if she wants to have a nice cup of relaxing tea first.

If you’re doubting whether she feels comfortable…
Talk about the following three points:

  • 1. Let her know that she can always tell you if she doesn't like something.
  • 2. Ask her if there is anything making her feel uncomfortable.
  • 3. Tell her that you can't wait to explore her beautiful body.

Let’s move on to the real work. You are both ready, and you’re about to give her a wonderful erotic massage. Use the following techniques.

Part 2: The 15 Basic Massage Techniques

The massage techniques you’re about to read are very simple to learn and easy to apply. If you do it right, you will get her so excited that she will hardly be able to contain herself…

Every woman prefers different massage techniques. Try everything, and pay attention to her reactions, these will show you what she likes the most.

15 Tips for Giving Your Partner an Erotic Massage

In part 3 I will tell you exactly which technique to apply to which body part.

  • Tip: She'll usually like everything, and if not… She will indicate this with words or gestures. So don't hesitate to experiment and let your own creativity flow.

15 Basic Massage Techniques

  • 1. Smooth. Keep your hands flat. Move them in a long, soft smooth movement. Especially on her back, legs, stomach, breasts and ass.
  • 2. Circles. Keep your hands flat. Draw circles on her body. Move your hands apart and back together. She'll like this on her back, legs, stomach, breasts and ass.
  • 3. Mini circles. Only use your fingertips to draw circles. Especially if the body part is soft. Especially nice on her breasts, stomach, cheeks, side of her neck, her upper back and her shoulders.
  • 4. Friction. Rub her skin with firm and quick movements. This creates a certain warmth, which will relax her even more. Perfect for her legs, arms, back, ass and shoulders
  • 5. Kneading. This is very similar to kneading bread. Grab parts of her body and put some pressure on it with your fingers and hands. Do this with parts where she has more body fat.
  • 6. Power socket. Make a quick vibrating movement with two fingers, like you're sticking them in the power socket. Wiggle your fingers softly on the surface of her skin. This is a good technique for her whole body.
  • 7. Thumbs. Make small, varied, slow and quick movements with your thumbs. Do this in circles or push them away from you. This movement also works all over her body.
  • 8. Grab. Make claws out of your hands and push them onto her body one by one. Draw your hands towards yourself one by one. Make sure your nails are both short and filed
  • 9. Stroking fingertips. Rub one hand over her body, and then the other, and stroke your fingertips over her body. It's important to touch her very lightly. She likes this all over her body.
  • 10. Hacking. Use the sides of your hands to rhythmically 'drum' on her body. This stimulates her body. Please note… Don't do this with sensitive body parts and parts where there are bones right beneath the surface.
  • 11. Make cups. Make round cups of your hands and 'drum' on her body with your hands. Especially nice on her back, ass and thighs.
  • 12. Knuckles. Turn your hands into fists and softly press your knuckles into her skin. Avoid the areas where bones are. The best place to do this, is in the palm of her hand.
  • 13. Extracting. Hold her legs or arms, and move your hands up and down.
  • 14. Turning. Make a wringing movement with your hands. The same way you'd wring wet clothes. Try this with her arms and legs.
  • 15. Licking, nibbling and biting. The unique thing about erotic massages, is that you also use your mouth a lot. Use your lips, tongue and teeth, to provide her with some extra erotic sensations. Experiment and see what she likes.
15 Tips for Giving Your Partner an Erotic Massage

These are a lot of techniques to apply all at once. You don’t have to do that. Start by combining two techniques.

Part 3: How to Massage Her From Head to Foot

By massaging her from head to toe, you can find out what she likes. Focus on one of her body parts or choose to divide your attention over her entire body.

While you’re massaging her, you’ll come across some hard spots on her body.

These are knots. These often result from tension. Pay a little more attention to these spots, because this increases the chance that you’ll get rid of these knots. This will make her feel more relaxed, and her orgasms will be better.

I will now explain how you should massage her, from top to bottom and from back to front. This is also the order you should stick to during the massage.

1. Head & Neck

There’s often a lot of unnoticed tension in your head and neck. If you massage these parts with your hands, it has a relaxing effect.

  • Scalp: Use your fingertips to massage her scalp
  • Earlobes: Rubbing or softly nibbling/kissing
  • Back of her head: press down with your fingertips
  • Sides of the neck: Make small circles (Technique 2)
  • Forehead, cheeks and chin: gently rub in small circles with your fingers or thumbs.

A little further down, you will find the shoulders and back.

2. Shoulders & Back

There’s usually a lot of tension in her shoulders.

If you massage this part well, it will relax her whole body.

15 Tips for Giving Your Partner an Erotic Massage

Make sure you don’t massage too hard, because it might be sensitive.

  • Shoulders: Knead her muscles. (Technique 5)
  • Shoulder blades: Apply soft pressure to the muscles, and not to the bones
  • Spinal column: Massage both ways with your fingertips
  • Back: Softly stroke her with your fingertips (Technique 9)
  • Waist: Knead both her sides

That’s all for the shoulders and the back. From here you’ll move on to her arms and hands.

3. Arms & Hands

Your arms and hands are parts of your body which you move a lot. That’s why it’s great for her not to have to use them for once, and to allow herself to be pampered.


  • Forearms: Use your thumbs (Technique 7)
  • Elbow: Slowly move over this and avoid applying pressure here
  • Upper arm: Knead her and use the technique of extraction (Technique 13)


  • Fingers: Pull or suck
  • Palm: Perfect for using your thumbs
  • Wrist: Gently move her hand from side to side

Next, we get to the favorite part of the ‘ass men’ among us.

4. Butt & the Back of Her Legs

She’ll love being massaged by you here. There are a lot of muscles in this part, so you can apply some more strength. Make sure to vary the amount of the pressure you use.

This part can also make a woman horny, because it’s close to her groin.

It’s important to go back to her shoulders and back every now and then during your massage. This way you will keep the flow of erotic energy going in her whole body.

  • Buttocks: Kneading is a possibility. It's also fun to experiment with your elbows and forearms.
  • Below the buttocks: light and smooth movements will feel good to her.
  • Thighs: Press down with your hands or forearms
  • Knees: Gently rub over these. Do not use too much pressure here.
  • Calves: Apply some more pressure here, and try out some vibrating movements. (Technique 6)

Now you have massaged the whole back of her body, and you can turn her over. You should start with her chest.

5. Chest, Stomach & Breasts

There are a lot of erogenous zones on the front of a woman’s body. That’s why you should take your time with making her all relaxed.

If you can tell it makes her uncomfortable, ask her to breathe deeply in and out, through her nose. This has a relaxing effect.

  • Chest: Flowing movements (Technique 1)
  • Nipples: Use your fingers, lips and tongue.
  • Breasts: A subtle fluid movement. Also knead them softly, with both hands.
  • Waist: A fluid movement with both hands.
  • Tip: While you're massaging her… Tell her how particularly beautiful you think her breasts are, and tell her how much you enjoy massaging them. This will help her relax, and enjoy herself even more.

Then you can skip her groin, and start with her feet.

6. Front of Her Legs, and Feet

It’s both relaxing and exciting to massage these parts of her body. The insides of her legs are especially sensitive, and give her erotic sensations.

Build this up slowly by starting at the bottom, with her feet. Her feet are also an erogenous zone.

15 Tips for Giving Your Partner an Erotic Massage


  • Toes: Massage your fingers between her toes, and softly pull on each toe
  • Sole: Press gently with your thumbs
  • Heel: Make circles with your thumbs


  • Thighs: Knead these muscles properly
  • Inside of her thigh: Soft strokes
  • Kneecap: Make circles with your hands
  • Shin: Move your thumb upwards over her leg
  • Calves: Knead the big muscles at the back.
  • Ankles: Circles with the fingertips

How to Give Her a Wonderful Orgasm After the Massage

Now you have massaged her entire body..

Except for…


The highlight is still to come.

  • Fingering: Simple, but effective. Here you will find 10 tips to finger her until she comes.
  • Make her squirt. After an erotic massage, it's simple to make a woman squirt.
  • Give her an A-spot orgasm.

Now you know enough to give her an exciting erotic massage. In the last part I’ll give you a few more tips to experiment with.​

Part 4: Extra Tips for an Erotic Massage

The first time, you should only use massage oil. If this is not enough, or if you’d just like to try something new…

  • Try blindfolding her
  • Satisfy all of her senses, with music, smell, taste and sight. Tip: Lick and eat your, or her, favorite dessert off her body. Chocolate mousse with strawberries and whipped cream, while you're both listening to sex music.
  • Use your feet, elbows and penis to rub her.
  • Only use your mouth. Kissing, sucking, licking, nibbling, biting.
  • Ask her about her fantasies, or use your own imagination. Try out some roleplaying, for example.
  • Play with objects. Think of feathers, a silk scarf, a vibrator and a head stimulator.

If you want to try ‘massaging’ her with a vibrator… Check this article for the 7 best vibrators.

How to Proceed After the Massage (for Men)

After massaging her, you’ll want to turn her on more and more, and finally make her come, hard.

I’ve discovered a simple trick for this, which will literally make her addicted to sex with you.

I call it:

The 'Three Secret Touches'

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